LARSON: LGBT becomes what they hate


This week, the LGBT lobby heavily pressured the NCAA’s Big 12 football conference to block admittance by Brigham Young University — because keeping BYU out of a power conference is going to make life better for gays everywhere. And I might add, also sarcastically, that this lobby is all for promoting tolerance, inclusion, and diversity — as long as it includes a back alley beating of the noncompliant. I wonder if the LGBT lobby would back down if BYU promises to use separate drinking fountains, or ride in the back of the bus en route to their games.

The top radical leaders of the LGBT sector have become what they said all along they hated and fought against: bigoted thuggish cultural bullies.

The LGBT community — true victims for so long — raced right past “equality” and in some circles is enjoying a status now of supremacy. Any group that seeks to interrupt business practices, college athletic conference membership, military service, Hollywood movie casting, grade school curricula, public bathroom use policies, and every other avenue of significant endeavor — with the politics of sexual identity and attraction — you can bet, is not seeking to be mere equals. After all, nobody goes into a contest aiming for a tie.

Perhaps we have different definitions of equality. We had assumed they meant equals in just the present era. Instead, they possibly meant historical equals — getting even. They don’t, personally, want to be equal. They want the SCORE to be equal. Since heterosexual privilege dominated several centuries of the Western culture’s landscape of sexual identity, now it’s time for them to be equal to that by demanding historical reciprocation. Somebody must be in the shadows, for a few generations at least, in order to bring balance to the eons. (I’m beginning to convince even myself now, so don’t mind me as I cower in the corner in heterosexual shame for the next few decades.)

A distinction should be made between the gay community at large, and the radical advocacy apparatus that purports to represent them. I won’t lie and say I have “lots” of gay friends. I have a few, and they are for the most part genuine, caring, and kind, even if we disagree. I’m guessing that many gays quietly cringe at the incessant tempestuous demands made by their most vocal national surrogates.

I do think we’re close to the point that very few people care who’s sleeping with whom, who loves whom, and that every human being should have basic protections and viewed equally under the law. We can debate what, exactly, that means in terms of employment and housing, for instance. That’s the legal realm.

But let’s set that aside for a moment. I ask genuinely, what is so important about making sure every last square millimeter of mainstream culture is overtly gay friendly? I don’t walk around demanding that every TV show is Mormon friendly, or white friendly, or heterosexual friendly, thinning hair friendly, or chubby friendly.  I don’t threaten boycotts to movie directors if my particular lifestyle isn’t portrayed favorably, or promise a lawsuit if Company X fails to cater strictly to my highest bathroom preferences.

Now that I’m pointing it out, I’m asking myself why I don’t run around demanding those things. And I think I know. Don’t take this the wrong way, but I think it’s because I’m confident in those fundamental areas of my life. I don’t need movie plots or CEOs or the world to make me feel all warm and fuzzy about being a Mormon, straight, white, or chubby. The LGBT lobby may save themselves gigawatts of emotional energy if they tried out confidence for a change, and quit demanding external validation in every last place they venture.

Gays will truly be equal when their national advocates can endure the normal vicissitudes every adult faces, like living day to day without demanding a culture that is not just accepting, but fawning. I’m fully aware that those are fightin’ words. But I know too many who are becoming silently resentful of the inescapable aggression of the LGBT’s demands, and a seemingly impossible standard —  that anything short of adoration is bigotry.

I would hope anyone, or any group, would want true acceptance over false adoration. And that won’t change, regardless of BYU’s conference affiliation.

Associated Press award-winning columnist Neal Larson of Idaho Falls is also the author of “Living in Spin.” He is a conservative talk show host on KID Newsradio 590am, 106.3 and 92.1fm, and also at “The Neal Larson Show” can be heard weekday mornings from 8:00 to 10:00. His email address is